THECROSSING.

You don't need to be certain.

In fact, being unsure is often part of what brings a woman to a call with me. One part of you may be ready for something to change while another part is hesitant about what change might mean.

You don't have to resolve that, or anything else, before we speak. The private call is simply a place to talk, ask questions and see whether The Crossing feels right for you.

That feeling of wanting to recover and not wanting to recover is common.

This ambivalence can make far more sense than it appears to — particularly when recovery has come to mean giving things up, losing control, gaining weight, years of struggle, or having to remain careful forever.

We won't try to force the hesitant part of you into submission. We'll become interested in what it is responding to.

The length of time you've been doing something tells us how long the pattern has been present. It does not tell us what is possible from here.

Women come to this work at very different stages of life, situations in life and after very different lengths of time. We begin with where you are now and where you want to be — not with an assumption that you have been doing this for "too long" to become free.

You don't need to.

In many ways, that is precisely why The Crossing exists.

You may already have encountered many explanations for why women binge, purge or restrict. But knowing the explanations is not the same as understanding what has actually been happening to you.

We won't begin by asking you to choose the right theory. We begin with your experience and become curious about what it can show us.

That's fine.

You don't need to arrive with a perfectly remembered timeline or identify the exact day everything changed.

Memory rarely works that neatly. We are interested in the bigger picture: what life was like, what you wanted, what was happening around food and weight, what began to change, what happened next and how you made sense of it at the time.

The pattern becomes clearer as we explore it together.

Then you bring that experience with you.

Some women come to me after therapy, treatment programmes, books, plans, promises and many fresh starts. Previous attempts may have given you things that were useful — and they may also have left you wondering why, despite everything you know and everything you've tried, you are still here.

The Crossing doesn't ask you to dismiss what came before. We look at what you have understood from it, what has changed, what hasn't — and what might deserve another look.

Then that fear belongs in the conversation.

You don't have to pretend it isn't important, minimise it, or say what you think you ought to say about your body.

What you believe recovery will require — and what you fear might happen if you stop doing what you currently do — matters. We need to understand those fears rather than trying to push past them.

It is a private conversation, not a consultation in which you have to prove that you are suitable — and not a sales pitch you have to defend yourself against.

I'll want to understand enough about what is happening for you, why you have reached out now and what you would genuinely like to be different.

You can ask me anything you want to know about The Crossing. I can explain how I work, and together we can establish whether this feels like the right place for you.

Then you decide. There is no obligation to continue.

No. The Crossing is not psychotherapy, psychiatric treatment or medical treatment.

It is private one-to-one work informed by my own full recovery and more than a decade of working with women to achieve their freedom from bulimia.

The work is exploratory, practical and deeply individual: understanding what is happening, seeing what may have been obscured or misunderstood, and using that understanding to move towards freedom.

If you need or are having medical treatment, therapy or another specialist service, The Crossing should not replace it. However, it is possible that The Crossing can work alongside it, and it is something we can discuss.

You do not need a formal diagnosis for bulimia or any other eating disorder to work with me.

What matters is what is happening for you, what you want to change and where you want to be after our work together.

The call is an opportunity to establish whether The Crossing is a fit for you and something you would like to do.

Where medical, psychiatric or specialist eating-disorder care is needed, The Crossing is not a substitute for that care — but it can possibly work alongside it.

The Crossing is designed for adult women whose relationship with food, eating, weight and/or their body has become fraught and difficult — crowding their thoughts, narrowing their choices and reaching into more of their life — whether that involves bingeing, purging, compensating behaviours, rigid rules, restriction or dieting, or a combination of these.

You do not need to have been formally diagnosed, and you do not need to work out for yourself which diagnostic label best describes what is happening. Many of the women I work with have lived with their behaviours privately for years, while outwardly carrying on with everyday life.

Women may come to me with a diagnosis of Bulimia Nervosa, Binge-Eating Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa — including binge-eating/purging or restrictive presentations — or OSFED. Others have never sought a diagnosis at all.

What matters is not the label, but what is happening to you, how you got here, and whether The Crossing is an appropriate and safe place for us to work together.

Where someone is medically unwell, in crisis, or needs specialist medical or psychiatric treatment, The Crossing is not a substitute for that care. In some circumstances it may be possible to work alongside appropriate clinical support.

If you're unsure whether The Crossing is right for you, that's something we can explore on the private call.

Your physical and psychological safety comes first.

Bingeing, vomiting and other compensatory behaviours can have medical consequences even when someone looks and feels reasonably well and is continuing with everyday life.

The Crossing can sit alongside appropriate medical or specialist care, but it does not replace it. If there are concerns about your health or safety, I will encourage you to seek assessment from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

No.

You are in charge of what you share and when you share it.

I understand that much of this may have been private for a very long time. You don't need to arrive ready to disclose every detail, account for every behaviour or tell me anything before you are ready.

We need enough openness to work together, of course. But trust is something that develops — it isn't something I expect you to hand over in the first conversation.